Something would happen to you because of someone close. It could be a silly thing. It could be a big thing.
Our minds always understand better with an example, so let’s take a generic example, let’s say – your parents are not happy about the choice you want to make.
This is a common cause of conflict.
Now, we will have to lay the ground for this example to make sense.
Let’s say you are a more rational person and likes to think logically. On the other hand, your parents may be fatalist and emotional. I think this is the most generic case.
Now, you cannot go against your parents because it would make them unhappy. You think about that decision from all angles but couldn’t understand the logical reasoning behind it. You try to understand your parent’s side, but end up with no logical explanation whatsoever.
Your mind goes crazy.
You keep on wondering about an escape plan. A common ground where they would be willing to think logically. Both sides will be happy and you will get to move forward from there.
But that’s not happening.
Your thinking is getting intense.
This is where you find yourself stuck in the loop.
How to break from this loop?
There’s no breaking away from this loop unless you are willing to surrender your belief to the one your parents want you to believe.
Now it really depends on what’s on the line.
If it’s your core belief system that has driven you to all this year. And you are happy with what you have achieved so far. Then you would have to be really stupid to give that away just to make your parents happy.
Another solution is that your parents let go of their beliefs.
You see how difficult this situation is.
And as long as this situation remains, your life is going to get miserable with each passing day. Either you surrender your beliefs or wait for the situation to take a turn. The latter often doesn’t happen because you have lost control of your own life and actually dependent on the external events to shape however they want.
Scary place to be.
This is not your parent’s decision in the first place.
The decision is yours.
They should let it go.
But it’s just an opinion, in the real-world it is much much more complex.