Why Some Choices Are Hard?

The weight of our choices depends on the way we think about them. For example – Remember when we use to go to the shop to buy a pen… Those were the old days and we use to get excited by the simple idea of choosing a pen for ourselves.

Do you remember what you thought before choosing a pen back then?

I was very particular about choosing my pen, I always looked for the following three things:

• Grip
• Weight
• Ink Flow (Tip of the pen)

Cello PinPoint was my preferred choice back then. Just because of its grip, its pin-point and my writing. I always use to carry this pen in my examination room.

So If I ask you to choose a pen now, which pen would you choose?

Are the parameters same that it was before?

Well, maybe everything is still the same or maybe now you don’t care. But the choices are always made with the sole purpose of benefiting you. If you do not benefit from the outcome you would not want to make that choice in the future.

With pens, I came to the conclusion that I like Cello pin-point more than any other in that range; it is because I have used other pens before and finally made my peace with this one.

The choice is always made relative to others. If there is no other option available then there is no choice.

Well, that’s the whole idea.

Ever wondered what changes when it comes to making a choice that would affect your career, your life path.

The biggest difference is that when it comes to your life choices, you can only make a choice once in that instance. The time will pass and you cannot go back and alter what you already have. You can build forward from where you are but never change what has happened (unless you own the Time Stone).

When we talk about choosing materialistic things like pens, clothes, gadgets… Those choices shouldn’t be hard. Because you can always choose another, all it cost is money. But the same cannot be done when it is about your life. Once the choice is made, it is permanent. Immutable. And that is the biggest reason why some choices are harder than others.

Now let’s apply these facts to daily aspects of our lives.

What all do we choose in a day and which choice makes the most difference?

You choose to wake up at a certain time but does it affect you deeply if for one day you missed your schedule?

No (IMHO).

Sure you will feel guilty for a short time for not following the schedule but you wouldn’t burn your mind over it.

But what if you missed your client presentation? Oooo… now that is a big deal. Because you only get to do it once. And once that time is gone, it is gone and you cannot do anything to undo it. You can put an effort to apologise to your client for wasting their time… but you lost the opportunity.

This happened because you made certain choices in the past. You could have chosen to do hundreds of other things to make this right for you. You could have slept early, set the alarm, ate good food etc… it is very important to realise the fact that all of those choices weighted together towards a certain outcome.

If you compare these two situations, the event is the same in nature. You cannot go back and change it. But the only difference is that in the first situation, you will wake up the next day can correct your schedule, but in the latter situation, once the time is gone and the meeting is missed, you might not get another chance. That’s why these choices are hard.

For the starters, it is not a single choice… it results in a series of choices taken at different points in time. And if you are not aware of the consequences, you could end up in a shitty place.

Take Away

Every choice you make in your day-to-day might be related to something that is about to happen to you in the future.

You got to be wary of your choices and should try to make them consciously.

Another important thing to remember is that – Not all choices hold equal importance and once you understand to differentiate between them – oh boy – good things will start to happen automatically.

These words are coming from someone who has not made very good choices in life and realised the cost later on.